Nowadays seems like everyone feels offended by something. We always feel the need to have strong, hurtful comebacks to prove a point if we are not agreeing on a topic.
And it is always wrong to attack someone on a personal level just because you don’t have valid arguments or even because you are not able to articulate them.
As Socrates said: “When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser.”
And it is true, violence is a weak person’s weapon. We should try to be provocative thinkers that are able to go through the process of the tough conversations, the kind of discussions that gives us a view on what’s truly meaningful to us.
We should never tolerate bigotry or label people as ‘hateful’ when there are different points of view.
If an opinion runs contrary to your own don’t dismiss it and don’t get in defensive mode. It is normal to have push-pull conversations and we have to be able to face this kind of conversations.
It is good when people know where they stand and if necessary to be able to present their opinions in a way that doesn’t revile the other speaker. Just because someone disagrees with you doesn’t mean it is something personal or that he/she doesn’t like you, it just means that you have different opinions on a topic. And that is perfectly fine.
It is a shame how everywhere you look on the internet, the comment section looks like a battlefield of words and insults. And if we claim that we are an educated, smart society then let’s also show this in the way we address our opinions. Respect comes first. You will never win any disagreement if you don’t have respect and honor towards the other person. Because that person will feel too offended to actually listen to what you have to say.
So remember this: it is normal and ok to have different opinions; always voice yours with arguments related to the topic and not personally attack other people, have respect, be considerate and don’t talk just for the sake of giving a reply but truly listen.
Listen more, talk less!
Let’s make the internet (and real life for that matter) a better place for provocative conversations and spark our intellectual capabilities.
“If you have learned how to disagree without being disagreeable, then you have discovered the secret of getting along – whether it be business, family relations, or life itself.” -Bernard Meltzer
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